Showing posts with label females. Show all posts
Showing posts with label females. Show all posts

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Hair on the bathroom sink

I don't think girls ever grow out of cutting their own bangs.

I had coffee with a friend today who commented on the status of my hair.  "Did you get a hair cut?" he asked.

"Nope...I'm actually trying to grow it out."

"Oh...it looks like your bangs are shorter," he responded with an unusually keen eye for a gentleman.

"Oh...well, I cut my own bangs.  Maybe that's why."  

I don't think I ever cut my bangs as a child, but in my adulthood they have a bi-monthly date with my scissors.  

We then recalled the night I met him and his four year old daughter.  Her bangs were jagged in the way only a preschooler could chop them.  He rolled his eyes and smiled over the antics of his child.  

Some things never change about the female species.

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Just call me Mary

In college I went through a book with a girlfriend; Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World by Joanna Weaver.  It was decent and definitely worth the read, and it instigated attempts at becoming more laid back, resting in God's presence, and not always having to be a do-er.  

What I realized today during our Thanksgiving feast is that I am a Mary.  I don't think I ever was a Martha, but alas, I got caught up with the trendy reads.  Sitting in the dining room with my brilliantly cultured uncle and his European, fellow vegetarian wife, drinking four different types of wine throughout the evening and speaking on topics from European culture, to literature, and the newest happenings in Greenwich Village appeals to me more than standing over a hot stove with my grandmother, mother, and sister, butchering the turkey with a thirty year old carving knife. 

Usually my hands are more useful in the creation of side dishes and baked goods, but this Thanksgiving I cooked nothing.  Actually, I nearly vomited this morning when I walked in on my mother with her hand underneath the turkey skin rubbing it with spices, in what looked like something out of Silence of the Lambs.  

I have completely migrated to one end of the spectrum.  Not that my Mary-heart has made me complacent and unmotivated to do God's work and serve others, but I would much rather be driving around aimlessly in my car singing praise at the top of my lungs, than washing dishes after a church dinner.  I am not unwilling to do these things, but I find pleasure in spending time with people and just resting.  

Is this bad?  Is this balanced?  Thoughts?

On a side note, it might not be such a bad idea to revert back to how Thanksgiving was once celebrated; with fasting and prayer.

Monday, November 24, 2008

Gettin' all Christina Aguilera up in this joint!

...I'm gonna tell ya what a girl wants.

Perhaps I AM a words of affirmation kind of girl.  In reality, I think every girl desires to be loved with every love language, but I am just now discovering how much I love words.

An old friend called me a "jewel" this weekend.  It was nice.  It was reassuring.  It was a big ol' boost to my confidence!

I can't help but think about what I was doing a year ago today.  I was coasting into a beautiful summer in Durban, daily losing power over the hectic evening thunderstorms, and the government mandated neighborhood power cuts.  I was learning how to teach English to French speaking Central African refugees during the week and learning how to surf on weekends.  I was spending my days with an eclectic mix of fellow students, and my evenings with the most incredible Church family I have ever been a part of.

I still remember my last night in Durban.  After laughing like crazy over cookies and pterodactyls at Pippa's, we headed to Spiga's for some late night dinner... and laughed some more.  When it came time to say goodbye, I was given a multitude of hugs and even a few gifts.  But, the waterworks didn't start until a dear friend of mine hugged me forever and said, "You are a precious legend."  (For the record, it took over a year to reach "legend" status amongst my Americanized South African friends, and only a month and a half for those who didn't fly the coop... what's up with that!?).  

Anyway, the point is as follows:  Girls like to be affirmed.  It doesn't matter if it is a romantic situation or not!  They like to be told nice things and cared about through words.

That's all.  Just another realization I had this past weekend.